Friday, January 24, 2014

Question: What is the most difficult part of your job? The most fun?

I have been a social worker for just about half of my life, and have many experiences both good and bad to last me the next half of my life. The demands of the job continually change.

This is not just true of social work, I realize. We are continually evolving and changing, therefore our professions (for the most part) will as well, and I believe that the way we adapt to these changes is what defines "difficult" or "fun." I look at any obstacles in front of me as a personal challenge to discover the resources I have within and around me, flushing out ideas and emotions I may not have realized I possessed. I never come out of a difficult situation without having learned something valuable. Of course this can be emotionally draining, and physically exhausting sometimes, but managing that is a lesson as well, no? Finding the balance in life to not only exist, but to thrive.

Now as far as fun goes, that's easy. I love to laugh and have a pretty decent sense of humor. It's been the saving grace in my life many times. I'm also incredibly blessed to be surrounded by some amazing professionals who feel the same way. I keep it "fun" by maintaining boundaries, being open and honest, keeping my ego in check, and by avoiding drama. I hold true to my personal and professional mission to help others and as long as I hold that ideal in the forefront of my mind, things seems to go smoothly.

"Fun" and "difficult" truly depend on how you work it....

Want to ask me a question?  Please do!

Let it go.

Recently, I listened to an interview of Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.

The interview was about creating the life you want through the Law of Attraction.  One thing he said that really struck a chord with me was about how the way we handle our past effects our ability to manifest things in our present.

Dr. Dyer said that we should think of life as if it were a boat heading up the river at 40 knots, and ask (and answer) three questions:

1. What is the wake? (The trail left behind)

2. What is driving the boat? (The present energy in the motor)

3.  Is it possible for the wake to drive boat? (NO!)

When we cling to events in our past, we are clinging to the illusion that the wake drives the boat.

He said we have a tendency to bond to our wounds. When we are hurt, nature closes the wound. Blood coagulates, skin meshes and the wound closes, although there may be a scar. Folks who cleave to the past tend to keep the wounds agape, bonding and leading with the wounds making them the basis of why their life isn't working, and when you hold onto them so strongly, they will never heal, may get infected, and are most likely to repeat.

Basically, he is saying.... let it go. Let the past go and let the wounds heal. Even scars fade over time.

It's important to keep moving forward, and there is a relief in that. There is relief in letting it go and not affording the pain of the past any more energy. Like a weight lifted from the shoulders, or the feeling you get when you throw things out to clear up the clutter in the closet. Light is able to fill more spaces when you do.

So do it... Let it go...